Confidence Garden 25: A Gentle Rewiring Ritual for Women Who Are Ready to Stop Comparing

Hi, I’m Shirley — and I made this on my notes app on my phone because somewhere around 2018, I started falling into a weird mental game I’d never really played before. I kept comparing myself to other women, friends, strangers — anyone. And even when I didn’t want to, my brain would sneak in little jabs.

So I built a game to rewire it this year.
This is a gentle mindset loop I now use when I catch myself spiraling into comparison.

It’s part mental reframe, part self-coaching, and yes, part imaginary marble jar reward system. (You’ll see.)

🎯 What is this exactly?

Confidence Garden 25 is a 3-page, printable/digital self-practice designed to:

• Catch those sneaky comparison thoughts in real time
• Replace them with a new, empowering loop (like: “Hot girls don’t compare, hot girls water gardens.”)
• Anchor that moment with truth (Scripture, affirmation, or your truth)
• Reward the brain (with a sound, a marble, a little Filofax decoration)

It’s like a habit tracker for your thought life — created by someone who still catches those thoughts weekly and is training herself out of them, one loop at a time.

💻 What’s included:

• 1 Cover page
• 1 Framework page – Step-by-step instructions to follow when comparison hits
• 1 Marble Reward Tracker page – So your wins don’t go unnoticed

Use it on your tablet, laptop, or print it and keep it with your journal.

No fluff. No 40-page workbook. Just what works.

This is created on Canva. In case you want to use the marble game, you can do so with a free Canva account. I did use Pro Elements, but it's designed as a static eBook, not a fillable eBook. You will receive the digital template in case you want to add pages or make changes.

Who can benefit from this practice and game?

Women with tender hearts, loud brains, and big dreams.
Especially if you're trying to rewire your thoughts, heal your relationship with yourself, and water your garden.

💌 Thank you for being here.
This little project has already helped me. I hope it helps you too.